Kindess Program & Challenge

February 13, 2012 in Featured, Programs

Every year Fit & Healthy Schools works with a local Elementary School to combat bullying. Our preferred method of doing so is following in the footsteps of Brian Williams and ThinkKindness.org. Think Kindness is a registered 501c3 non-profit organization that aims to inspire thousands from coast to coast to change the world through seemingly simple random acts of kindness.

When Think Kindness founder Brian Williams started martial arts, he learned that “Kindness was the ultimate form of self-defense”. Instead of a survival of the fittest, teaching, he learned that it was survival of the kindest. “If you are nice to everyone, you should never have to defend yourself.” Says his instructor Tom Callos.

Following in his footsteps, as well as our Coach Tom’s teachings, we work on challenging our 5-10 year olds to perform random acts of kindness. For the ones who aren’t yet writing, they get the chance to color in Kindness Ribbons. The older ones write out their acts, or even work on creating videos to teach the younger ones what some acts of kindness could be. And, our 4th-12th graders over the The House, Inc. are out and about in the community this week performing their acts!

So, let us know if you see the kids out and about, or even, just stop by and tell us what RAOK you were blessed with!

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. a cultural diversity program

February 9, 2012 in Featured

F&HS is committed to improving student and parent awareness of the need for physical activity, proper nutrition and appropriate mental attitudes.  We accomplish this by building fit and healthy schools, focusing on one youth at a time.  Our program provides educational materials to students, parents, teachers and athletic instructors in our local school system and beyond.

Our network of speakers and certified instructors help to:

  • Provide balanced exercise, nutrition, and kindness education for school-aged youth.
  • Demonstrate and model safe and fun activities for teachers and students.
  • Empower youth to take responsibility for healthy habits, improve self-esteem, build self-assurance and foster a lifelong commitment to health, fitness, and respect for themselves and others.
  • Engage schools and families to help teach respect to our youth, both in athletics and life.

Our program fosters building respect for our differences both inside and outside the classroom using a train-the-trainer methodology for parents and teachers. We have included a training component for a sample workshop with students. Our instructors work with a variety of cultural backgrounds in a variety of educational environments.

Diversity training is a fundamental component of a diversity initiative and represents the opportunity for school districts to inform and educate administrators, teachers, and parents about diversity. The purpose of training is not only to increase awareness of diversity in the schools, but also to develop and enhance skills among parents, students and teachers to help them communicate more effectively with each other. Diversity training has the ability to increase awareness, impart knowledge and educate people further on how to accept differences in those they encounter in their lives.  The main goal of our diversity-training program is to create a positive environment by helping participants to recognize and be tolerant of differences among those they interact with in school, work and life.

Diversity training programs often fail for several reasons.

  1. They’re viewed as the latest human resource fad or because an outside agency recommends a diversity program.
  2. Many school districts fail to implement diversity programs that are custom-made for their needs.  Many school districts select a generic program not tailored to their organizational structure or culture.
  3. Parents and teachers feel the material is not relevant to their job and simply see the training program as a waste of time.
  4. Inadequate resources supplied to implement changes.

When a proper diversity-training program is initiated within a school district, the schools and participants benefit from elevated commitment levels to teaching and learning, motivation over all increases and there is a renewed focus on reaching higher levels of learning. According to a study conducted by National Center for Research in Vocational Education at the University of Illinois: “The most effective diversity training programs are inclusive. These programs aim at enrolling all participants; obtain the support of both school district management and parents; keep their definitions broad, in order to include everyone as part of the diversity that should be valued; conduct needs assessment and customize programs to meet organizational needs; follow action plans; and provide accountability.”

Fit & Healthy Schools (F&HS) has produced a diversity training program that includes: awareness-based training, to increase knowledge and sensitivity to diversity issues; and skills-based training, to provide a set of skills to enable participants to deal effectively with diversity in the schools and their lives.

Train-the-Trainers Program

In the United States, diversity and social inequalities, differences and problems are often ignored or shrugged off largely because a lack of understanding and toolset in which to confront the problems.

Recent studies have shown a proven pattern of success in our society where social boundaries are blurred, crossed and broken down. Because of this, it is imperative now, more than ever, that our school’s teachers, staff and faculty are armed with the knowledge and tools to teach students to do the same.

F&HS’s Diversity Program helps facilitators create a safe environment for diversity exercises and discussions, and generate a willingness to participate from students for reflections after exercises. It also enables facilitators to anticipate any problems individual students may have in advance so that they can be addressed effectively.

Topics covered in the diversity curriculum:

  • In-group favoritism/Cliques
  • Borders and Boundaries
  • Bullying
  • Confidence and Respect
  • Mixing it up

The goal of F&HS diversity training is to teach facilitators how to build acceptance for a diverse environment with respect towards all people. The training equips facilitators to set a tone of positive energy in a safe environment and to encourage people to open up and share aspects of their cultural background with each other.

This program helps individuals and groups to break down barriers, create new relationships and strengthen individuals in the process. This enables students to see differences with acceptance, understanding and an attitude of mutual respect and cultural openness.

Three instructors facilitate our Train-the-Trainer program. The workshop lasts three hours; participants rotate instructors at the 50-minute mark and have a 10-minute break between sessions. The program is broken into the following parts:

Part 1: Ice Breaker and Lecture – This section allows participants and instructors to get to know each other, discuss what’s going to be learned, and to set expectations and agreements. The lecture portion will cover what diversity is and why it is important.

Part 2: Empowerment and Activities – Participants will work on project ranging from In-group Favoritism, Borders and Boundaries, Bullying, Confidence Building, and more.

Part 3: Diversity Workshop and Discussion – The purpose of this section is to create a safe environment and a value for participation from participants, which will enrich the experience of everyone. We look at demographic statistics and how they relate our selves, family, friends, community and the country.

Participants receive Program Booklet, Respect Book, Every Other Day Cards, Respect T-Shirts, and a Certificate of Completion.

Student Program

Many of our schools a training component for students as well as a part of this overall program. For example, if we have a group of students ranging in grades from 6th – 12th, our modules to work with the students are broken into two groups, 6th-8th and 9th-12th. Students will break into groups of 20-30 students each with an Instructor. The student program lasts approximately 3 hours and rotates each group through each Instructor. Students will cover several of the topics and programs that the teachers and parents learned to use in their classrooms and at home. F&HS asks that there be several Guidance Counselors in attendance to help support any questions or concerns the students come up with as they would be most familiar with the students from their respective schools.

Part 1: Ice Breaker & Workshop – Fun, engaging introductions between students and instructors. The Workshop includes topics such as the World Village, Borders and Boundaries, and Bullying.

Part 2: Taking Action! – Students develop the confidence to take action in situations where boundaries have been crossed, the skills to stick up for others and gain respect for people’s differences and perspectives.

Part 3: Diversity Workshop & Breaking Barriers – Students come back together as a cohesive group. We look at demographic statistics and how they relate our lives, family, friends, community and the country. Students participate in a diversity circle and then follow it up with a discussion on what their feelings, thoughts and responses were to the exercises.

Session Evaluations

Our team conducts both pre- & post- training assessments for the Train-the-Trainer sessions, as well as a 6-month follow-up survey to determine how the programs are working in the classrooms and/or at home for the parents. All participants have year round access to the Fit & Healthy Schools website where they can continue access and download program information to use in their classrooms and lives.

Students attending the Student Program will take a pre- & post- quiz identifying their knowledge of cultural diversity and respect. Students also have year round access to the Fit & Healthy Schools website where they can participate in diversity discussions and continue to find exercises to increase their knowledge and awareness with diversity and sensitivity issues.

Creating Community Gardens

February 6, 2012 in Featured, Nutrition, Programs, Projects

Fit & Healthy Schools is committed to improving student and parent awareness of the need for physical activity, proper nutrition and appropriate mental attitudes.  We empower youth through education and activity to take responsibility for healthy habits, improve self-esteem, build self-assurance and foster a lifelong commitment to health and fitness.

We are working to bring communities together to work towards a more giving, caring and sharing outlook.  We are doing this by creating community gardens throughout the community of Pennsville, NJ.  Our Director of Communities & Giving, Brenda Irwin, and co-owner of The Training Academy, has obtained permission from local schools, churches and businesses to use their unused space to create community gardens.

The gardens will be created and maintained by volunteers ranging in age from 4 – 60 yrs.  The harvest will feed anyone who is in need of food.  The mission is to teach ‘seed to table’ nutrition.  The team will work with volunteers to teach people how to garden, importance of healthy nutrition and how to create meals from the crops.  The gardens will be open for anyone, anytime to pick whatever they need to eat.  If we have an abundance of any crops, the harvest will be donated to the local food pantry for distribution.

FHS will be using Grant Funds to purchase supplies and soil for the spaces requiring raised gardens, seeds, plants and other supplies.  The local Habitat for Humanity Restore has many items for sale which can be used in our project.  We will also be creating plastic bottle sheds and work spaces at some of the sites.

Most gardening tools have been donated by members of the community.  A local landscaper has volunteered to till spaces.  A local business will be asked to create and donate signs.

We see the growth potential for this project to be phenomenal.  Working with the local elementary schools, businesses and non-profit groups will create exposure allowing for exponential growth.  The ongoing communications and teachings will allow for the community to get more involved, thus creating a more sustainable project.  When people are benefiting from the gardens through healthy nutrition, providing food on their tables, more people will be encouraged to participate.  This will create the opportunity for growth and expansion throughout the community and the project to become a permanent resource in the community.

The goals of the Community Garden Project are to create and maintain community gardens to teach seed to table concepts, healthy nutrition and instilling a healthier active lifestyle while providing healthy food.  The gardens will provide vegetables, herbs and fruits, depending on location and feasibility in each garden space.  The idea of a community garden is that the garden is planted and maintained by whoever is interested in participating.  The first gardens will be created and maintained by students and parents of The Training Academy in conjunction with Fit & Healthy Schools.  Herb gardens will be started in window boxes allowing for year round benefits.

We have contacted a local organization who works with the homeless community to help them get back on their feet.  They are interested in helping with this project to create an environment of learning.  This will allow the participants to learn a skill, understand healthy nutrition while providing food for them.  This will allow them to feel like they are making a contribution to their community and give a self esteem boost.

Other Fit & Healthy Schools will be modeling this program in their communities.  Through the creation of literature, websites, blogs and media exposure, the concept of the community garden project can be easily modeled through education, resource sharing, collaboration and resource sharing.

The Training Academy is a part of the 100., a martial arts international business community on-line college designed and overseen by martial arts teacher Tom Callos.   We subvert the dominant paradigm in the martial arts industry; we “Think Wrong”; we promote intelligent, sustainable business practices; and we transcend style, system, political affiliation, and country of origin.  There’s isn’t, yet, another marital arts association like The 100. in the world; If we do our job well, we hope to see that change.  Community sustainability, healthy, active lifestyles, proper nutrition are just a small part of what we teach within our schools.  The community garden project will also be promoted through members of the 100.

Image from hardwickagriculture.org

Virginia Bullying Laws: Do you know what they are?

October 19, 2011 in Featured, Information

A Guest Post from Studio13byMBSWorks.com.

The last few weeks our household has been inundated with notices and conversations from and with our local Elementary School about the amount of bullying going on with the younger children. Some of it could be attributed to kids being kids…but more often than not, lately we’re seeing issues because of the have’s and have-nots. Young ones being allowed to bring electronic devices on the bus and to school for sharing or Show & Tell days.

The issue? Not all kids have access to the same kinds of toys, computers, electronics in general. Should these devices be allowed on the bus or in the school? As a parent, my stance is no. I may have elected to allow my child to have certain toys or things, or maybe they were given as gifts, but there is no reason for that item to be on the bus or in the school unless the school has provided it for educational purposes. It’s distracting. It creates problems.

As part of this discussion, several of the parents were unsure of what the State Laws were, I thought I’d share them here.

Virginia Bullying Laws

Bullying/Harassment - Code 22.1-279.6 (2008) requires the Board of Education to establish guidelines and develop model policies for codes of student conduct to aid local school boards in the implementation of such policies. The guildelines and model policies must include standards for school board policies on self-defense and bullying. School boards are required to adopt and revise regulations that are are consistent with, but may be more stringent than, the guildelines of the Board. Each school board must include in itscode of conduct prohibitions against bullying, hazing and profane or obscene language or conduct.

Code 8.01-220.1:2 (2005) provides immunity from liability for school employees and volunteers from civil damages arising from reporting alleged acts of bullying or crimes against others, if the person in good faith promptly reports such acts or crimes to the appropriate school official incompliance with specified procedures.

Cyber Bullying - Code 22.1-279.6 (2008) requires the Board of Education to establish guidelines and develop model policies for codes of student conduct to aid local school boards in the implementation of such policies. The guildelines and model policies must include standards for school board policies on the use of electronic means for the purposes of bullying, harassment and intimidation.

Hazing - Code 22.1-279.6 (2008) requires the Board of Education to establish guidelines and develop model policies for codes of student conduct to aid local school boards in the implementation of such policies. The guildelines and model policies must include standards for school board policies on hazing, and policies must cite Code 18.2-56, which defines and prohibits hazing and imposes a Class 1 misdemeanor for violations.

Source: National Association of State Boards of Education
Last Updated: 2/27/2009

Clearly we need more parent education as well as educating our children. The question becomes, how do we reach the parents as well?

This blog is part of the Ultimate Black Belt Test Program (www.UltimateBlackBeltTest.com), which is an undertaking of The 100. (www.The100.us), and find more about Stacia’s projects at (flavors.me/staciakelly).

Good sportsmanship and team work

October 3, 2011 in Featured, Information

I spent the majority of my weekend on the soccer fields.

No, I’m not a soccer player, but my son was asked to pick a sport to focus on, and he selected soccer. (Thank you Universe, so much less expensive and better times to practice than ice hockey ;) ) Therefore, we’ve been on the soccer fields more often than not these past few weeks as he participates in Recreational soccer for the 5th or 6th season (I’ve honestly lost count), and is now also part of a cross over team, getting ready for Travel. That means 3 practices during the week and two games on Saturday. This weekend included a makeup game on Sunday. (I’m willing to play taxi if he’s going to focus and give it his all.)

I have met some wonderful coaches (actually, all the coaches we’ve had have been GREAT) and parents in this endeavor, and yet this past Saturday I was dismayed and appalled at the behavior I not only witnesses on the FIELD with the 7-8 year olds, but also the behavior on the sidelines of some of the parents of said 7-8 year olds.

By U8, the teams are no longer co-ed, and they’re now focusing on learning to play positions, team work and really learning the sport rather than just running around in clumps after the ball. It was cute when they were 3, it’s not so cute when they’re doing it at 7+ and can seriously damage each other.

Our Team

Our team has a wonderful coach this season (we’ll call him Coach K), he’s very focused on teaching them the correct skills and positions and really pushing each and every one of them to test out their strengths and strengthen their weaknesses. He’s not only our U8 Rec Coach, but also our U8 Crossover Coach. Cross over teams play 5 on the field plus a goalie, focused on positions and learning the skills of the game. He takes into account the kids personalities, how they’re feeling that day and tends to keep to a fun loving, let’s play mood on during the Rec Games. During a Rec Game, when the team is too far ahead in goals, he has them work on skills on the field and really wants them allowing the other team the chance to score a few goals too. He even pulls a player off the field and plays one man down if necessary to allow the other team to work on their skills and scoring. And, he’ll cheer and encourage the other team’s players just as much as his own. Cross Over Games are much more intense and focused on playing soccer to win as a team.

What I Saw Happening at the Rec Game

All of our kids are learning. Who do they learn from? Their parents, their teachers….their coaches. I am a martial artist. I teach self control, respect, shake the pain off and get up and keep moving to help your team out (plus you don’t want to get kicked in the head), and a whole host of other things as well. One of the things we teach is focus and control of your kicks, and in soccer, the ball.

Saturday morning, the first hit came as an elbow to the face.

Next were the attempts at leg sweeps, the shoving/pushing, the jump kicking to the groin, and  a whole host of unprofessionalism and down right just trying to be mean. Yes, there is to be some of that to be expected, but when each child came off the field in a fit of pain, while the other team congratulated each other on another new goal and general trash talking (yes, trash talking at their age). I reminded one of our parents that yelling at them about it when it was the parents that needed to be corrected first, then the child. She calmed down some, but she had a valid reason for being ready to correct the child. I took my child aside during a break to explain that if he got hit, pushed, shoved to either roll with it and come back up on his feet or block and evade. As my discussion with one of the other mothers….I should NOT be having to have a self defense discussion with my son on the soccer field. I should be helping him focus on speed, timing and skills. I also should not have to be counseling him on no he can’t swing back 1) because it’s not right and 2) because as a young martial artist, he could do serious damage to the other player too. Our boys recognize they take a knee and stop when there is a player down, NOT high five and generally cheer on your buddies.

Winning isn’t everything.

As each of us stopped to remind our boys, it doesn’t count as winning when you are:

  • Purposely going out of your way to hurt other players.
  • Not playing by the rules of the game, then what’s the purpose of playing the game?
  • Trash talking the other team esp at this young age. “You’re so far behind, you suck.” And that was just one of the comments I overheard.
  • Accusing others of faking taking a hit.
  • And so on.
Thankfully, most of our boys took the game as just a game. They weren’t concerned about the loss. As Coach K coached them, and I reiterated with my son….did you play your position? Did you listen to your coach? Did you work your hardest to help out your teammates? Then that is what counts. Clustering up, overwhelming, overpowering players playing their position, attempting to hurt them….even going after your mother on the sidelines after your coach pulls you from the game for bad conduct?
No only just uncool, but that’s just being a bully.
Our boys play this team two more times before the season is over. As it’s going, I can only hope that none of them suffer a broken bone. And yes, I will have to say something not only to the child, the coach…but also the parent. Should my child end up with the broken bone, I hope that other child’s parent understands….their child will be coming to martial arts class and learning the idea of respect, honor and playing to play. By the rules. For the love of the game. They’ll be doing kindness projects, learning about their elders.
This scares me. Is this what we’re teaching our kids? At this age, they’re only going to carry it forward into Middle and High School. We’re going to get MORE athletes who think they’re entitled to do what they want, when they want and how they want…on or off the field. Yes, that is the extreme.
But it STARTS SOMEWHERE…..and what if, somewhere is HERE.